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Having been having sex now for around 10 years, I am still sometimes surprised by people who know absolutely nothing about the clitoris. Well, there are really three varieties of terribleness when it comes to clitoral neophites. (Yes, I've encountered women who fit into all three of these groups as well.) The first has never heard of the clit and has no intention of ever learning about it. It's like if somebody brings up the clitoris they jam their fingers in their ears until the topic is over.

The second version has heard about the clitoris, but have absolutely no idea where it actually is. Is it somewhere near the bellybutton? Is it to the right of your labia? Is it actually inside the vagina somewhere? These people will put their hands lots of places, but none of it will be on the clitoris. Sometimes they might actually luck out and find it, but at that point it's like not seeing the forest for the trees.

Third version knows exactly where the clitoris is, but has no idea what to do with it. Do you just sort of...poke it? Do you begin by furiously rubbing it and ignore all other parts of the vulva? Who the hell knows. But hey, you found it! So that counts for something.

For awesome stuff about the clitoris, I direct you here.

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I found this decent little tidbit on r/sex the other day on good and bad reasons to open a relationship. I'd like to add the single poly perspective and say that you can also define yourself as poly if it's something that makes you happy. Even if you're not in a "relationship" yet and you just want to be open and honest with anybody you might wind up dating that you won't be entirely exclusive. I understand that relationships are work, and that you can't be happy 100% of the time. And you don't have to reach bouncing off the walls types of happiness. That shit can be irritating.

Just...general okayness with open/poly/whatever being what you want and who you are.

Also, there's this pretty neat article up on Vice about poly. The closed vs. open relationship chart near the end is something I haven't seen before, and interesting.

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If you don't know about Fairly Odd Parents, you should. If nothing else because then you can appreciate how this meme was created.

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The school year is beginning again, and with it all the fantastic team building exercises that are forced upon workshop participants. Build the tallest tower you can using only paper plates and straws! Sit back to back with a partner; one of you describes a picture and the other has to draw it. Get it? We're working on clear communication and being a good listener.

Honestly? I feel like they should just have you do this damn stuff during the interview process if it's so important to job function. Maybe instead of asking that question about what a person's greatest weaknesses are. "I'm sorry, your resume was stellar and your references all check out, but you couldn't work on a team to play a game of charades without being a total ass-hat, so we're going with a different candidate."

In any case, we were in our classroom today setting things up for the students to come in tomorrow.
We have a few new full-time assistants, so those of us who have been there longer were going over the dynamic of the room. As part of this the lead teacher had us include, "something important to know about you" in our intros when we were introducing ourselves to the newbies.

Since I've been pretty good about the whole, "be honest in appropriate situations" thing, I decided my "something important" was going to be telling everybody about Now-Hubby and Frisbee. I think I phrased it as, "I'm married, and am also in another significant relationship." One of the newbies totally shocked my by saying she has a relative who's in a similar type of relationship. And the rest of the newbies just sort of moved on and accepted it.

Cheers, fellow co-workers. Let's go write some acrostic poems and share them with the group.

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Marie Claire of all places has a very decent article about condom use in their September issue.

For a totally better and awesomely informative look at contraceptive use in the United States in general, check this out.

And finally, if you're a woman and are looking for an alternative form of birth control, you could always consider this as well.